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Here Are the Top 10 Things People Share With Their Moms on Facebook on Mother’s Day

Here Are the Top 10 Things People Share With Their Moms on Facebook on Mother’s Day


Here Are the Top 10 Things People Share With Their Moms on Facebook on Mother’s Day

Posted: 09 May 2014 12:01 PM PDT

Mother’s Day can be a lot of pressure. You need to write your Mom the perfect card, get her the perfect gift, and now that we live in a social media obsessed era, you need to post the perfect thing on her Facebook wall.

But Facebook wants to help you out. The social network sent us the 10 most popular things people shared with their moms on Mother’s Day last year, and 365 days later, they’re still pretty adorable.

1) An Open Letter To Moms from Kid President

2) Someecard for Mom, "I love how we don't even need to say that I'm your favorite child"

3) Boyz 2 Men, “A Song for Mama”

4) Family Guy episode, “Lois Mom Mum Mommy”

5) Clay Weiner, "Mother’s Day"

6) 35 Signs You Were Raised By A Jewish Mother

Top sign: “You know to always bring a jacket no matter what the temperature is.”

7) 2PAC, “Dear Mama”

8) The Lonely Island, "Motherlover (feat. Justin Timberlake)"

9) Mr. T Treat Your Mother Right

10) Barats and Bereta, “Mother’s Day”

Celebrities Call for Action With #BringBackOurGirls

Posted: 09 May 2014 11:45 AM PDT

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10 Times You’re Better Off Saying Nothing at All

Posted: 09 May 2014 11:40 AM PDT


This post is in partnership with Inc., which offers useful advice, resources, and insights to entrepreneurs and business owners. The article below was originally published at Inc.com.

You’ve probably read before about the key phrases that greatest leaders say every day.

But great leaders are also wise when it comes to the opposite strategy: Sometimes, the smartest thing to say is nothing at all.

I’m not referring here simply to the advice your mother might have given you about keeping your mouth shut if you don’t have anything nice to say. Instead, think of the big moments when people come close to achieving goals, accomplishing great things, or even just developing good relationships and encouraging people to like them more. Sometimes, a simple slip of the tongue can set them back and destroy all they’ve worked for.

It’s the same issue whether we’re talking about negotiations, investigations, or plain old conversations. So, in the interest of preventing us from wishing wistfully that our mouths had been on Mute, here are 10 times when the sounds of silence are the best sounds of all.

1. When the other side in a negotiation starts debating against itself.

Sometimes people get into a spiral of bad negotiating tactics. They wind up outsmarting themselves–perhaps making an offer and then rejecting their own offer because they think you won’t take it. Imagine a customer who opens a conversation by saying that he understands you can’t cut the price on your product before asking for some smaller concession–and then maybe even convincing himself that even that’s too much to ask for.

For a fun, extreme example of this in action, see this video from The Princess Bride. Often your best move in that situation is to keep your mouth shut and simply stay out of their way.

2. When you’ve asked a question.

We all know these people, right? They ask questions but can’t wait for you to finish so they can offer their own viewpoint. Sometimes they don’t even bother waiting and instead try to hurry you along with verbal cues–“uh-huh, uh-huh, right, right, right…”

When they asked for advice, what they really meant was, “Let’s fast-forward to the part where I tell you what I think, instead.” Don’t be like them. To paraphrase baseball great Yogi Berra, you can observe a lot by watching, and you can also learn a lot by listening.

3. When the other side misunderstands (and you don’t have a duty to talk).

A lawyer once told me about selling a client’s company. To make a long story short (lawyers love that phrase), the negotiation went much more smoothly than she’d expected. Eventually, she realized this was because some whiz-kid M.B.A. on the other side of the table had made a simple math error. That led him to overestimate vastly how much money the acquiring company would likely make after the deal was done.

The lawyer was overcome with apprehension, until she realized the right thing to say: nothing at all. That way, she wouldn’t be breaching her duty not to misrepresent facts to the buyer, but she also wouldn’t do anything to scuttle her client’s deal. The moral of the story is that you don’t always have an obligation to correct someone else’s mistakes.

4. When you don’t have any idea what you’re talking about.

Silence is awkward. As a result, people often rush to fill it. I used to use this tendency to my advantage when I was a trial attorney taking depositions in civil cases. Sometimes, I’d ask a witness an open-ended question, and even though the witness’s tone of voice suggested he’d finished his answer, I’d just continue to wait expectantly, as if anybody with half a clue would understand he had to keep it coming. Sometimes, the witness would keep going and dig himself a bigger hole.

You never have to fill a silence, especially when you don’t have anything useful to fill it with. (In those cases, it’s true: Everything you say may well in fact be used against you.)

5. When you need someone else to get the credit.

As President Harry S. Truman once said, you can accomplish just about anything if you don’t care who gets the credit. Sometimes, that means staying quiet just long enough for someone else to think of your solution and propose it as his or her own.

6. When you are bragging, as opposed to sharing.

This one is among the scourges of social media. Go on Facebook, for example, and sometimes it seems as if everyone you know is eating well, taking amazing vacations, running marathons, and enjoying storybook relationships.

Is all of this about social sharing or social bragging? If you find you’re leaning toward the latter with the things you talk about, maybe it’s time to be quiet.

7. When your comment is more about you than the other person.

Suppose your co-worker Sally is excited for her plans for the weekend. You catch yourself ready to tell her about a better place than what she’s planned or why she should take her trip on another weekend–maybe when the weather is better, when the traffic will be less hectic, or when she’ll have fewer competing commitments.

Aw, that’s really nice of you–as long as you’re sure your comments are truly intended to improve her experience or offer good advice. If there’s a chance you’re commenting out of jealousy or pride, however, maybe you’d be better off zipping it.

8. When you want someone else to grow.

This is a similar point to when you want someone else to get the credit for a good idea. If you have a second grader in your family, chances are you could do her homework for her without much effort. But what would be the point? You want her to learn and grow, which means she has to be the one to come to the conclusions on her own.

The same thing is true in many other circumstances. Instead of leaping forward to answer a thoughtful question that you know the answer to, sometimes it makes sense to hold back and let others figure it out.

9. When you are clearly boring people.

I admit it. I’ve got what’s called “the Irish gift of gab.” I enjoy telling stories. My wife laughs at how often I seem to wind up telling total strangers the story of how she and I met and got together. It’s a good one, though! You see, we’d gone to college together and dated for a while, but then broke up…

OK, I’ll hold off on it for now, and that’s the point. Most of us can tell when we’re holding court for an audience that simply couldn’t care less. In that case, cut it short, wrap things up, and stop talking.

10. When you begin a speech.

I love this example, and it’s something I first put into practice when arguing appeals in court.

Whenever I give a speech, I try to start out with a long, uncomfortable pause. Doing so puts the audience ill at ease for a moment and gets them rooting for you. They worry that you’ve lost your notes or that you’re about to keel over from a panic attack. That way, when you start talking, you’ll have at least a few of them on your side, happy that at least you haven’t made them witness an embarrassing meltdown (h/t, Winston Churchill).

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Dating Show Contestant Reveals He Murdered Wife And Mistress, But Is Still Looking For Love

Posted: 09 May 2014 11:38 AM PDT

When it comes to looking for love, maybe skip the dating shows and hitch a ride on the hook-up truck instead.

While honesty is usually the best policy, Sefer Calinak, a man looking for love on a Turkish dating show, missed his chance to meet a potential wife when he got a little too open and honest too quickly.

The 62-year old shocked the audience of Flash TV's The Luck of The Draw by admitting — on air — that he had murdered his first wife and later killed a lover with an axe during an argument.

Calinak said he killed his first wife, a cousin, when they were both 17. As is common with young love, things didn’t work out. Less common, Calinak killed her and was sentenced to 13 years in prison, serving four before being released due to an amnesty.

He then started an affair with a married woman and when she refused to leave her husband for him, they argued and he “accidentally” killed her with an axe. “I killed her after she tried to kill me,” he said according to Hurriyet Daily News. “She was accidentally killed when I swung the ax.” He then served another six years in prison, before heading to the bright lights of television to look for love.

According to USA Today, the show’s producer knew that Calinak had murdered someone, but he was allowed to appear on the show because he had served his legal sentence.

In the game show’s defense, the host did ask Calinak to leave after he confessed to the second murder.

As for us, we’re sticking to that cupcake on Tinder.

Watch the action unfold in Turkish:

[Via USA Today]

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Berlusconi Begins First Day of Community Service

Posted: 09 May 2014 11:35 AM PDT

The residents of a senior center outside of Milan got the ultimate surprise visitor on Friday: Former Italian Prime Minister Silvio Berlusconi, reporting for duty.

The 77-year-old media tycoon was ordered to serve four hours a week at the center following his 2013 conviction for tax fraud. A Milanese court offered the sentence as an alternative to house arrest.

CNN reports that Berlusconi made no comments as he entered the Fondazione Sacra Famiglia, a residence for 20 patients suffering from Alzheimer’s.

Pippo Fiorito, a member of a health care worker’s union, staged a protest at the entrance, saying “His place is in a jail, not here.”

Berlusconi maintains his innocence, arguing that his conviction last August was politically motivated. He is barred from running for office for two years.

[CNN]

What’s Behind Apple’s Possible Beats Buy?

Posted: 09 May 2014 11:33 AM PDT

Apple is said to be looking to bolster its streaming music business with a possible acquisition of Beats Electronics. Why would Apple want to buy the company?

The reported $3.2 billion price tag would be Apple's largest single acquisition to date. From the iconic Beats headphones to streaming music, the buyout makes a lot of sense: the era of digital downloads is coming to an end and Apple is still without its own truly successful streaming music service.

If completed, the deal would be Apple CEO Tim Cook’s boldest move yet to place his own signature on the tech giant, more than two years after the death of co-founder Steve Jobs.

Watch the video above for more.

Nigerian President: Missing Schoolgirls Likely Still in Country

Posted: 09 May 2014 11:32 AM PDT

Nigerian President Goodluck Jonathan said Friday he believes the hundreds of schoolgirls kidnapped by Boko Haram last month are still in the country and have not been sent across the border, despite rumors to the contrary.

Jonathan’s government has drawn global wrath for its sluggish response to the April 14th kidnapping of over 250 schoolgirls by the Islamic militant group. The president’s comments come after some reports the girls had been brought across the border to Cameroon.

There are stories that they have moved them outside of the country,” Jonathan said, Reuters reports. “But if they move that number of girls to Cameroon, people will see, so I believe they are still in Nigeria.”

We are also working with the experts that will use remote sensors to see them (insurgents) wherever they are. So that basically says they are within the Sambisa area,” Jonathan said, referring to the Sambisa forest near the school where the girls were taken.

Jonathan’s statement appears intended to refute rumors that the girls may have been sold as brides to men in neighboring Chad and Cameroon. The rumors were bolstered by a video of Boko Haram leader Abubakar Shekau admitting his group had abducted the girls and saying “I will sell them in the market, by Allah.”

The White House has sent a team of military and law enforcement officials to Nigeria to help locate the missing girls.

[Reuters]

House Committee Scrutinizes D.C. Pot Law Despite Mayor’s Refusal To Comply

Posted: 09 May 2014 11:22 AM PDT

Conservatives in the House of Representatives grilled a panel of Washington D.C. law enforcement officials on Friday about a pending law that would decriminalize possession of small amounts of marijuana in the nation’s capital, despite Mayor Vincent Gray’s refusal to send council members to testify.

Eleanor Holmes Norton, D.C.’s non-voting congresswoman, testified representing the district at a House Oversight subcommittee hearing, telling lawmakers Gray believed D.C. was being singled out in its effort to enact legislation reducing fines for possession of small amounts of marijuana similar to laws passed in 18 states.

Norton said the decision to hold the hearing was “quaint,” stressing that D.C. has the ability to self-govern. But subcommittee chairman Rep. John Mica (R—Fla.), who held a fake joint after his opening statements, stressed Friday's hearing was not intended to single out the District. "We are not here to negate the District's laws. We're here to review its principles," he said.

Mica expressed concern over a potential crossover between federal and local law enforcement agencies. 'This particular change in law does effect a number, in fact 26 federal agencies in the District of Columbia that are charged the responsibility of law enforcement," he said. He questioned which agency would be responsible for his arrest if he was caught in possession of marijuana with one foot in a U.S. National Park and the other just outside.

Norton said that the law would address racial disparities in arrests for possession of marijuana within the District. She rejected claims made by some lawmakers that the law would interfere with existing federal policies regarding public use and sale of the drug.

"D.C. residents and elected officials were stunned by two recently released studies," Norton said citing a July 2013 American Civil Liberties Union study that found blacks were nearly eight times as likely to be arrested for possession than whites in D.C., although drug usage rates are broadly similar. "The District, like many other jurisdictions, has taken a very practical step to reduce the outsized arrest and incarceration rates of minorities.

Republican members of the subcommittee, however, called into question whether the law would really impact racial disparity. "I anticipate there will still be arrests for intent to distribute," Rep. Thomas Massie of Kentucky said Friday. "Will the disparity continue?"

Assistant Chief of D.C. Metropolitan Police Peter Newsham, who also answered questions as a courtesy to the mayor, said later that the law’s full impact would be hard to predict. "Arrests for possession will likely decrease," he said. "But whether or not enforcement action [on more serious drug crimes] will be taken is hard to say."

Mayor Gray signed the bill in March, but because Congress has authority over the district—every law passed in D.C. is subject to their approval—there is a 60-day window of Congressional review. Most bills sail through this period with ease, .

Friday's hearing was the third held by the House Committee on Oversight and Government Reform examining the impact that state marijuana laws have had on federal law. Though none of the other hearings jeopardized the implementation of a jurisdiction's policy

When asked whether or not he rolled the faux joint himself, Mica responded that his staff members did. "They have more experience," he said.

 

Wyoming Is First State To Reject Science Standards

Posted: 09 May 2014 11:12 AM PDT

(CHEYENNE, Wyo.) — Wyoming, the nation’s top coal-producing state, is the first to reject new K-12 science standards proposed by national education groups mainly because of global warming components.

The Wyoming Board of Education decided recently that the Next Generation Science Standards need more review after questions were raised about the treatment of man-made global warming.

Board President Ron Micheli said the review will look into whether “we can’t get some standards that are Wyoming standards and standards we all can be proud of.”

Others see the decision as a blow to science education in Wyoming.

“The science standards are acknowledged to be the best to prepare our kids for the future, and they are evidence based, peer reviewed, etc. Why would we want anything less for Wyoming?” Marguerite Herman, a proponent of the standards, said.

Twelve states have adopted the standards since they were released in April 2013 with the goal of improving science education, and Wyoming is the first to reject them, Chad Colby, spokesman for Achieve, one of the organizations that helped write the standards.

“The standards are what students should be expected to know at the end of each grade, but how a teacher teaches them is still up to the local districts and the states, and even the teachers in most cases,” Colby said.

But the global warming and evolution components have created pushback around the country.

Amy Edmonds, of the Wyoming Liberty Group, said teaching “one view of what is not settled science about global warming” is just one of a number of problems with the standards.

“I think Wyoming can do far better,” Edmonds said.

Wyoming produces almost 40 percent of the nation’s coal, with much of it used by power plants to provide electricity around the nation. Minerals taxes on coal provided $1 billion to the state and local governments in 2012 and coal mining supports some 6,900 jobs in the state.

Burning coal to generate electricity produces large amounts of CO2, which is considered a heat-trapping gas in the atmosphere. Most scientists recognize that man-made CO2 emissions contribute to global warming. However, the degree to which it can be blamed for global warming is in dispute among some scientists.

Gov. Matt Mead has called federal efforts to curtail greenhouse emissions a “war on coal” and has said that he’s skeptical about man-made climate change.

This past winter, state lawmakers approved budget wording that sought to stop adoption of the standards.

“Wyoming is certainly unique in having legislators and the governor making comments about perceived impacts on the fossil fuel industry of kids learning climate science, and unique in acting on that one objection to prohibit consideration of the package of standards, of which climate science is a small component,” said John Friedrich, a member of the national organization Climate Parents, which supports the standards.

Friedrich and Colby noted that oil and gas industry giants Exxon Mobile and Chevron support the standards.

Opponents argue the standards incorrectly assert that man-made emissions are the main cause of global warming and shouldn’t be taught in a state that derives much of its school funding from the energy industry.

“I think those concepts should be taught in science; I just think they should be taught as theory and not as scientific fact,” state Rep. Matt Teeters, R-Lingle, said.

Paul Bruno, an eighth-grade California science teacher, said the climate-change components can cause confusion because they are difficult to navigate.

The Thomas B. Fordham Institute, a conservative think tank, gave the standards a “C” grade.

While the standards overall are “mediocre,” Bruno said they are being “a little bit unfairly impugned on more controversial topics like climate change or evolution.”

The standards for high school assert that models predict human activity is contributing to climate change, but leave an “appropriate amount of uncertainty” and note that it’s important to factor in costs, reliability and other issues when considering global warming solutions, he said.

“And so I think it’s fair to say that the Next Generation Standards at least make gestures in the direction of wanting to accommodate those potentially skeptical viewpoints, particularly when it comes to things like energy production,” Bruno said.

New Benghazi Committee: Seeking Answers Or Contributions?

Posted: 09 May 2014 10:56 AM PDT

House Democrats remained divided Friday over whether to participate ina new Republican-led investigation into the deadly 2012 attacks in Benghazi, Libya.

The investigation has both sides of the aisle accusing the other of trying to mislead voters. The Republicans say Democrats want to stonewall the investigation, while Democrats are angered by Republican fundraising in connection with the Benghazi probe.

Approximately 60 individuals stormed the American embassy in Benghazi on Sept. 12, 2012 and killed four people, including American Ambassador Christopher Stevens.

Watch the video above for more.

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